So your marriage has fallen apart and now you are fighting over the custody of your children
You and your former spouse have been trying everything imaginable to save your marriage and prevent a divorce. You have tried everything from marriage counseling to mediation. You have tried every trick in the book but your marriage is still failing. Now you have reached a fork in the road concerning the custody of your children. This can be a difficult decision but if you follow these simple rules of thumb, you will be far ahead of the game.
The Reigning King of Everything That Can Be Used against You in a Custody Battle Physical or verbal altercations. If you are experiencing a reclusive behavior from your ex, be sure that you have documentation proving the fact that your ex is not being honest with you. By far the worst thing that can be used against you in a child custody proceeding is verbal or physical altercations. You want to be very careful about who you allow to stay in your home with your children. If you are afraid for your safety and well being, do not allow your ex to stay.
The Ex-Spouse wants Child Support
You want to be able to maintain regular visitation with your children if you are getting a divorce and you both agree. Unfortunately, if your ex-spouse refuses to cooperate and is unwilling to give you regular visitation, you can end up in court for an extended custody battle. Here is the best piece of advice that any parent ever need to heed when fighting over visitation. The best way to go about winning this fight is to show the court that you are willing to go above and beyond what is required by the state to receive child support payments. If you can prove to the court that you are a suitable and reliable father, they will end up giving you more time to pay. If you can prove to them that you are a very responsible parent, they will end up favoring you because they know that you will make a good choice for your children.
Custody Battle over Visitation This is one of the biggest battles that most parents end up having during a divorce. Visitation is usually what happens when divorces occur, and with that being said, you do not want your custody arrangements to be affected by this fight. If you feel that you and your ex are not on the same page as far as visitation goes, the best thing to do is to simply try and work things out without battling in court. There is no reason to drag this out into a custody battle, which would not be in your best interest at all.
The State has the Authority to Make Changes to Child Custody Arrangements
Even if you and your ex-spouse are agreeable on certain matters regarding your child custody battles, the state can make changes to the arrangements that it has set down. Laws are different in each state, so it’s best to look into the laws governing the state that you live in before making any final decisions regarding your divorce. Sometimes the judges are willing to strike down some of the provisions that your ex-spouse might have wanted in the divorce agreement. In these cases, you might be able to get your child custody battle started again by simply filing for a modification. However, you still need to show that the modification would benefit both you and your ex in the long run.
Payment of Support Usually, once the divorce is finalized, the alimony payments will be stopped. This means that you will need to come up with an arrangement where you are able to continue to pay your alimony. In order to do this, you will need to contact the other parent and arrange a payment plan that is fair for both of you. In the event that the other parent isn’t cooperative, you will need to go through the court system in order to find out if the other parent is providing the funds that you’re asking for and if they are giving you the best interest of the child in mind when they are making these payments.